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Nicolas's avatar

Brilliantly written, sharp, sarcastic but honest. It makes me wonder: why are we so afraid of keeping things simple and authentic?

If honesty scares someone off, that’s clarity... not failure 🙃

The real loss is when we hide what we feel just to keep someone interested #winning

Cherry Static's avatar

wear your heart on your sleeve - I wish more people did it 🫶

Kurt Bilafer's avatar

I’m a dad watching my 20 something daughter try to navigate this mess. Can someone start writing about how men need to get their act together and be present, attentive and engaging. Everyone deserves a partner that makes them more, this only happens when men show up. To all the romantics, hold the line, don’t settle and keep the faith - love is worth the wait.

Cherry Static's avatar

It’s hell out here….but at least there is comfort in knowing that your daughter will never settle with such a caring father figure as a role model 🙏

Neo's avatar

Just wrote an article inspired by your comment Kurt - hopefully it meets your request haha!

Zahabiya Nuruddin's avatar

you’re my favorite person on substack 🥹 i look forward to each of your pieces - it always deeply resonates w me. thank you for sharing ❤️

Cherry Static's avatar

Thank you Zahabiya 🥹🫶

Friesen's avatar

“…Winning ✌️”

Lu's avatar

This is genuinely so freaking good. I love it, I want to eat this column, digest it and don’t poop it.

Mia Tallula Gill's avatar

and so, so, so much truth

Mia Tallula Gill's avatar

I fucking love this. eloquent yet bad bitch vibes. perfection

JA's avatar

Really well written.. love the flow and humour.

I feel your pain, being straight forward and enthusiastic seems to garner a frustrating reaction from both sexes..

My question is, though… how much do you chase the toxic? How much is there this inherent instinct to run when chased and desire what you cannot have?

Do you even give the enthusiastic man that first sniff of a chance so you can get to the stage where you then want them..

Or are we all just totally toxic?

Cherry Static's avatar

Valid. It seems that toxicity courses through my veins. The pattern is an addiction without an obvious cure….

Fareedah's avatar

You write so honestly. Refreshing.

Favour Adepoju's avatar

With the pawns! Go, girl! ❤️

candymoq's avatar

Brilliant 😍

Spacepluis's avatar

Let them play the games, don’t play a long (I love your writings by the way) ❤️

Cherry Static's avatar

Thank you 🤍

Tyrone Tellis's avatar

Ah this is world class! Yes don't play games, be open and problematic, show your real self as soon as possible. Watch Taylor Swift on New Heights podcast with her boyfriend and his brother

Nina's avatar

Boys play games, man are chasing. Although some boys never turn man.

Tiggly's avatar

Date yesterday on Sunday for dinner. Anytime I thought about dimming my light a little I thought “Queens Gambit” and showed as my “ May blind you if you look directly” self. Take it or leave it mate.